When God Spoke to me........

When was the last time you dealt with a negative or difficult person?

Or the last time someone did or said something with the intention of hurting you? What was your response?

Usually we end up getting riled-up in our own defense. We too quickly jump to our own defense when we feel insulted. Sometimes siblings play villainous Cain to Abel. Relatives push buttons too. The closer they are, the more capable you are of getting hurt by them. Coping with difficult people is a hard and challenging work. Blood is thicker than water, but blood can sometimes be bad. Every family has a difficult family member, an in-law, a step-, an out-law, or someone alse that's at every family function who has a way of putting a damper on festivities, and this can make family get-togethers anything but pleasant. We cannot choose our family members, BUT we can choose how to react on their difficult behaviors.

There are people who thinks they know-it-all, and we know that a know-it-all is ALWAYS right, they can also be the arguer. There are some that thinks they do better than everyone and come off like snobs, and that STINKS. They always make you feel, you are NOT ENOUGH which makes you feel uncomfortable and self-conscious. There are spoiled brats that always loves to put a show, someone who I would call a show-stealer, and tries to control everything as to things must be done their way, what is happy for them and what is fun for them. There is also the sponge-type, who didn't want to contribute or take part but would show-up when the help is no longer needed.

I am the type of person who wants to get along with everyone. But no matter where we go we will face people who are negative, people who opposes our ideas, people who piss us off, or people who simply do not like us.

Resisting the trap set by difficult people is easier if you are aware of your vulnerability to getting hurt then feeling angry. As they say, you can win more bees with honey, than you can with vinegar. We cannot control what a difficult person say or do, BUT we can control ourselves.

“Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” We only hurt ourselves when we react to negativity. Because what they do is a reflection of what they feel internally and then they express it externally and it just happened that you are infront of that expression. Sure you need to stand-up for yourself but do so w/o demanding that you be above criticism at all costs. When we respond impulsively it is a natural response, however, is it the smart thing to do? When we fight back, it feels satisfying in our heads, but is it satisfying in our soul? Nothing good comes out in reacting against someone in a negative state. The angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become. It is wasting our energy, Where attention goes, thats where energy flows. When we allow negativity in our lives, it sublty bleeds in different areas of our lives too. We carry that energy with us throughout the day.

Let them express how they feel and let it be, they are entitled to express themselves. People perceives things differently, it may be good to you, but to some it may be bad. They may also express it less eloquent or tactful than you would expect...it may also be offensive.

Satan can bring people in your lives to torment you but this is what the scripture says......

Zephaniah 3: 16-17

¹⁶ On that day it shall be said to Jerusalem:
“Fear not, O Zion;
   let not your hands grow weak.
¹⁷ The LORD your God is in your midst,
   a mighty one who will save;
he will rejoice over you with gladness;
   he will quiet you by his love;
he will exult over you with loud singing.